If you think you’re battling flesh and blood, you’ve already lost the war.

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 All points of view have value.

Just because people are giving great advice doesn’t mean some or all of it applies to your situation and/or circumstances.

Although people usually mean well, be wise in the counsel you keep and the advice from others that you apply in your life. Discern for yourself what you can use, and tuck the rest away for another time.

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Allow God to put His super with your natural, and witness the extraordinary.

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When we turn men into gods and then find out they’re mere mortals, why is it that we blame them for our own disillusionment?

Be careful who you place on a pedestal. When they tumble off, it’s usually your heart on which they fall.

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A second guess and a second chance aren’t the same thing.

When you second guess, you’ve never given the first choice a try.

Don’t get the two confused when you’re dealing with people.

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Most often the issue isn’t narrowly defined as the thing to which we think is the issue.

Look at/for the bigger picture.

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When speaking of intimate relationships, we know we must not treat the next person in our life poorly because of what the previous person put us through, so why do we carry past hurts and slights into a new relationship?

It’s simple: unspoken and/or unnoticed regret.

We regret that we didn’t act differently in the previous relationship. We regret we didn’t say or do something(s) that may have made it work the way we wanted it to work. So what do we do in the next relationship?

We treat the next person the way we believe we should have treated the previous person.

The problem is that what you think would have worked to save the previous relationship isn’t going to work in this new relationship, because now you’re dealing with someone else.

With each relationship that doesn’t turn out the way we want, we add more unspoken and/or unnoticed regrets, and then that’s just one or two more things to carry into the next new relationship.

Think about it.

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Don’t get it twisted. Happiness isn’t the ultimate goal.

Happiness is just a pit stop on the road to authentic joy.

Happiness is a feeling, an emotion, that can go as quickly as it comes.

Joy is an inner peace that no one and nothing can touch.

Joy is the perfect peace that happiness only wishes it could be.

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When Anne Frank said that in spite of everything, she believed that people are good at heart, people called her young and naive.

I believe she was right, even though people try to prove me wrong at every turn.

I’ll keep believing in the goodness of people, even when they show me their worst, because in spite of everything, I believe that God is capable of changing anyone’s heart.

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When you and another person are involved in a dispute, one person can’t solve the issue alone.

You can’t have a conversation with yourself and by yourself and then dictate to the other person how the outcome will be. You can’t simply decide “this or that” is what you need to have or do to move on and then negate the other person from the process, giving no thought or concern to what s/he may need or want to be able to find the same closure that you believe you have.

This is selfish and arrogant.

Both individuals involved in the dispute must be allowed to have their say, and each must make every attempt to try to understand the other person’s point of view before any real and lasting resolution can be achieved.

Sometimes things get so heated that it’s best to walk away and cool off before resuming dialogue, but you must make a time to revisit and resolve the issue together if an authentic resolution is to be reached.

If both of you decide that the best course of action is not to interact at all, then at least you’ve reached that decision together and you will both be able to move on; you at your pace and the other person at their pace.

If you reach a resolution that doesn’t include or consider the other person, all hearts and minds aren’t clear, and there’s still work to be done.

After attempting to talk with one another to resolve the dispute, there’s no guarantee that an agreeable resolution will be reached.

The tragedy, however, is not in the trying. The tragedy is in the unwillingness to try.

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